All posts by Muskan Lamba

About Muskan Lamba

I like the smell of earth, the touch of waves, the taste of berries, the sight of trees, the sound of laughter, and the feeling of being fully alive.

5 favourite quotes of the week

1. I wanted to make it and I was going to make it regardless of what anybody said. -Unknown

2. Anything you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe and enthusiastically act upon must come to reality. -Paul Meyer

3. It does not matter whether you’re rose, or a lotus, or a marigold. What matters is that you’re flowering. -Osho

4. Defeat should never be a source of discouragement, rather a fresh stimulus. -Robert South

5. Patience will achieve more than force. -Edmund Burke

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An idea on ideas

As Howard Gardener puts it: “Most cultures throughout human history have not liked creative individuals. They ignore them or kill them. It is a very effective way of stopping creativity.” Our society has fought the longest battle with creativity (while also being its friend?), not realizing the power it withholds (but rarely exercises). My dad has always taught me the importance of staying true to myself no matter what. And I learnt this rather recently that it also requires me to stay true to my beliefs and ideas (so hard!?).

Ideas are very important! Most people around me, upon telling me their ideas, start off with: “Um, I know it’s extremely silly, but…” or “I just had a random thought, I know there’s no way it would work out but…” Well, ideas are random. And they never work before you do. You might as well be getting a 100 brilliant ideas a day but you don’t pay enough attention. This is where you go wrong. Ideas are perhaps the quickest to vanish.

I am not an expert at keeping track of every idea – but I learnt this relevant way to give them the due importance they deserve – I started writing them down. I may work upon it 10 days later, 10 years down the lane or never, but what matters more is that I keep them safe for the days I’d go through a creative block or feel inadequate despite a motivation to work. That’s when they can (and will) serve a purpose.

If you think you lack ideas – question. Be curious. Questions are ideas, too. You yourself are a living combination of ideas. It is all too easy to run down someone else’s ideas, and it isn’t always easy to stand up for your own. Next time you get an idea and are shot down – decide to fight for it without becoming down-hearted. Note it down, work on it at a later stage – but by all means, WORK.

Honestly, the biggest killer of ideas is seeking validity. The society values worthless things. It has always had it wrong. If you do crave validation, though, seek it when you’re done with the creation or the final product. Your ideas hold the key to unlock change, and the world needs it as badly as it needs your silly, random, im(possible) ideas. If it didn’t, we’d still be living in caves instead of these imaginary cages.

A star and you.

I named a star after you;

one I saw everyday.

It emptied my eyes of sorrow

until one day it disappeared

and I could see it no more.

I caught glimpses of it

as it went farther and farther away,

finally blurring into the distance.

Did it personify

your presence in my life?

Because I saw a star in you, too

and it faded over time.

So did you. So did we.

Note to a friend

People tend to give me solutions for simplifying my feelings, or letting go of them, as if they’re pitying me for the way I feel. But I don’t need pity, and I don’t need solutions. I don’t see my feelings as a problem per se, because I want to embrace everything I feel; from despair to regret. If I ever share my feelings with you, know that I have learnt to accept them as they are, even if they make me weak. I don’t need change. 

Dissimilarities

Somedays, my heart tells me, “it’s okay to live in the past.” My heart has its ways of carrying me forward as well as backward, always leading to a state of confusion and disarray. But my mind never pushes me back. Feels like it’s already living in the future, or at least has had some experience of the days yet to come. It knows how to time travel and pulls me ahead with all its might. They’re learning how to get along and synchronise with one another. And I have little control over it, except that of being a mediator. Sometimes, the entire process of pushing and pulling leads to mental and physical exhaustion both. While my mind is much more sensible, this all three of us accept, the sensitivity of my heart results in dominance, and my thoughts submit to it willingly. Nevertheless, I can’t deny that it is the chaos inside my heart which always leads me to transformation. Thoughts only lay a basis for it. And somehow, I have made peace with the dissimilarities.

You are responsible for your own drowning.

It breaks my heart to hear people say, “There’s nothing to live for”, “I’m helpless”, or “I don’t know what to do with my life anymore.” It feels like they’re giving up too soon. Our world is a full of endless possibilities and opportunities, dreams and ideas, fulfillment and purposes; and this in itself is a wonderful reason to be alive, to always strive for the better and to actualize one’s immeasurable potential.

All of us go through challenges at some point in our lives; challenges so severe that they leave us shook, waver our sense of living, and leave us wondering if we’re good enough. But that by no means stands as a reason to conform to helplessness or unwillingness to ever come out of the difficulties. This is such an undesirable way to live.

Honestly, every person who’s existed in this world has had a life of troubles, one after another, which may have differed in intensity or paucity. But every person, without exception, has undergone something that staggered their souls to the ground. Isn’t knowing this relieving enough to give up on the thought: “I’m the only one bad things happen to”?

I think we need to consciously widen our perspectives and allow ourselves to believe that we are not alone (although we may think we are). You can’t survive in this world if you keep giving yourself away to the ruthless hands of self-pity, negative social comparison or unnecessary sadness. This way, you’re not living, you’re simply withering away. As fascinating as flowers may appear, their beauty vanishes as soon as they wither.

Always complaining and never learning how to come out of a messy situation is like diving into deep water day after day without learning how to swim (even when you have the necessary abilities and equipment) and then cribbing about how you nearly drowned. Maybe you were lucky enough to be saved by a lifeguard until now, but you won’t always have that kind of support in life. Someday, you’ll need to learn to be responsible for yourself and your own drowning.

I want you to ask yourself a question, and keep asking it to yourself until your insides transform to find an answer: “Why must I give in to problems when I can easily use the required strength to come forth and achieve groundbreaking victories?” You might as well visualize your life as a battlefield, but mind you, your battle is never with the problems you face, only with yourself. This means that no matter what happens, you will be the victor as long as you live.

For how long? That is upto you.

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5 favourite quotes of the week

  1. We never know the quality of someone else’s life, though we seldom resist the temptation to assume and pass judgement. -TAMI HOAG
  2. Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do. -ROB SILTANEN
  3. The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive. -JOHN GREEN
  4. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable. -C. S. LEWIS
  5. It’s so hard to forget pain, but it’s even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace. -CHUCK PALAHNI
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What Love Is (To Me)

Love is sunflowers;
bright yellow petals
interwoven with golden shimmer
no wonder why it’s so warm.

Love is a humble wind;
painted transparently
between the bushes of kindness and care
no wonder why we miss out on it sometimes.

Love is a still river to us;
misleading, but always moving
secretly, slowly, perennially
no wonder why it transcends all boundaries.

Love is that one more light;
when all else fades
Love is pointing to the stars;
when all else fails
no wonder why it is within and also without.

-Muskan Lamba

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My Words.

What is the peak time for my words?
It is the exact moment before I fall asleep
I get a million precious thoughts at once
That I need a hundred hands to pen them down
Or a thousand mouths to speak them out
My mind’s capacity becomes ten times its usual
And it feels like I’ll drift into oblivion
With my heart holding so much wonder and fascination.

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