It breaks my heart to hear people say, “There’s nothing to live for”, “I’m helpless”, or “I don’t know what to do with my life anymore.” It feels like they’re giving up too soon. Our world is a full of endless possibilities and opportunities, dreams and ideas, fulfillment and purposes; and this in itself is a wonderful reason to be alive, to always strive for the better and to actualize one’s immeasurable potential.
All of us go through challenges at some point in our lives; challenges so severe that they leave us shook, waver our sense of living, and leave us wondering if we’re good enough. But that by no means stands as a reason to conform to helplessness or unwillingness to ever come out of the difficulties. This is such an undesirable way to live.
Honestly, every person who’s existed in this world has had a life of troubles, one after another, which may have differed in intensity or paucity. But every person, without exception, has undergone something that staggered their souls to the ground. Isn’t knowing this relieving enough to give up on the thought: “I’m the only one bad things happen to”?
I think we need to consciously widen our perspectives and allow ourselves to believe that we are not alone (although we may think we are). You can’t survive in this world if you keep giving yourself away to the ruthless hands of self-pity, negative social comparison or unnecessary sadness. This way, you’re not living, you’re simply withering away. As fascinating as flowers may appear, their beauty vanishes as soon as they wither.
Always complaining and never learning how to come out of a messy situation is like diving into deep water day after day without learning how to swim (even when you have the necessary abilities and equipment) and then cribbing about how you nearly drowned. Maybe you were lucky enough to be saved by a lifeguard until now, but you won’t always have that kind of support in life. Someday, you’ll need to learn to be responsible for yourself and your own drowning.
I want you to ask yourself a question, and keep asking it to yourself until your insides transform to find an answer: “Why must I give in to problems when I can easily use the required strength to come forth and achieve groundbreaking victories?” You might as well visualize your life as a battlefield, but mind you, your battle is never with the problems you face, only with yourself. This means that no matter what happens, you will be the victor as long as you live.
For how long? That is upto you.